How to Encourage Good Behaviour in Your Child
Behaviour, whether good or bad, has to come from somewhere. Whether it’s from the environment your child is in (at home, neighbourhood, child care centre), the things he/she saw through the internet, encouragement or reinforcement or something he/she emulated from adults and other kids, most of the ways how your child behaves can be traced back to a specific reason.
Furthermore, it’s important to correct or reinforce a certain kind of behaviour early on because of how kids develop during their early years. More than 1 million new neural connections form each second during the child’s early years and during this same period the core brain architecture is being built. As a result, it’s crucial to get things right early on before things become permanent or almost impossible to change.
How to encourage good behaviour in your child
Good thing is that it’s relatively easy to encourage good behaviour by giving attention to your child when he/she behaves well. Kids crave our attention and they have all the time in the world to get it whether it’s through positive or negative means. Of course, the better choice is to give attention to the positive things so that your child will do more of that.
Another way to encourage good behaviour is by being a role model. As mentioned in the beginning, good or bad behaviour has to come from somewhere (i.e. where else can your child learn this and that?). If your child only sees good behaviour, most likely he/she will adopt it and make it a part of his/her personality and daily routine. Aside from being a role model, it’s also great to create and maintain an environment that allows and supports positive behaviour. For example, if his/her play area is messy and cluttered in the first place expect it to get even more cluttered each minute he/she plays. In contrast, if everything is neat and orderly this kind of environment will likely encourage a neat and good behaviour.
There are many other ways of encouraging good behaviour in your child. The key here is to remain patient and minimise the number of things that might encourage bad behaviour or that will lead to your child making a mess or mistake (you prevent the scenario of scolding him/her in the first place). The result will then be a more positive relationship between you and your child in the coming months and years.