Can a Single Parent Raise a Successful Child?
Whether because of choice or circumstance, being a single parent is challenging and stressful, which is often why many have doubts about raising a child and helping him/her become happy and successful. Although there are huge challenges, many single parents are still able to do it well and even give their children unique advantages in life.
Single parenting and how children develop
Because there’s only one adult in the household, early on children are often involved in the duties and responsibilities at home. Some of the light household chores are being done by the child so that the parent can focus on other tasks. In addition to those duties and responsibilities, the children of single parents might also be more heavily involved in decision making.
Their participation in decision making can help with the development of their thought processes. Early on they could better understand and appreciate the concepts of finances and responsibility. It can also help them understand at an early age the value and consequences of decisions. It’s a priceless lesson that can help throughout their lives.
However, it’s tough for them to wrap their minds around decisions and consequences. Because of their limited experience, it will take time and lots of mistakes for them to grasp the concepts and reality. As a result, we always have to be patient and always try to find the balance between being too tough and being too soft.
We’re always under pressure and the built-up stress might show when our children are with us. It’s extremely difficult or even impossible to attain the balance. Also, there are times we feel alone and inadequate. We also often feel that we’re not putting in enough time for our children.
Fortunately, it’s still possible to be a good parent despite the challenges. Perfection is impossible though because we only have 24 hours a day and most of that is taken by our jobs and other responsibilities. What can we do then is to guide our children to be mature, responsible, self-reliant and confident. We can accomplish that by letting them take part in making decisions which affect both the parents and children. It’s also important to maintain a positive and nurturing environment for their encouragement, learning and understanding.